Fading Memories

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Memory fading through the years,

A time, a place, a family dear.

Long ago, their voices heard,

Seldom now, do they occur.

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Tears of “once…” flood my eyes,

Heart-felt memories saying goodbye,

Remembering now is hard to do,

Can’t recall as I used to.

A Key to Good Memories

Every relationship begins with a hello…every relationship ends with a goodbye. Our interactions with others in this life are what we make it by our choices. Treat others as we would like to be treated is a key to good memories.

Don’t Look

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You can always find something you could have done better or failed to do. It is easy to find negatives in any situation. My best advice…don’t look.

Focus on “the affirmative and eliminate the negative”…find the positive in you, in others and in life. When negative wants to show you something…don’t look.

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Saying Goodbye

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Saying goodbye is like watching a ship sail away. The more you watch, the smaller the ship becomes until it is only a small dot on the horizon. Then, in a moment, the ship is gone and there’s only the meeting of the sky and the sea.

Goodbyes bring sadness and loneliness into our lives. We hold back the tears in order to appear brave for the moment. As the days pass, the sadness finds a place in our life. We adjust to the loss. We learn to smile through our tears and there comes a day when the tears are less. We remember and we smile.

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Forgive Yourself

How is it that we cannot resist occasionally revisiting, reopening the wounds, reapplying the lotions of self-loathing and guilt?

Memories are encased in the pain of remembering. By nature, we want somehow to punish ourselves for an event that we cannot control. In the newness of grief, we begin the habit of remorseful guilt, which can easily turn to self-hate.

Regardless of any past event, when a loved one dies, it is important to forgive yourself for anything you believe you did. Unresolved guilt, whether justified or not, can lead to dysfunctional grieving. Even if you believe you didn’t do anything right, don’t let your guilt interfere with your grieving. You don’t need to feel guilty, but you do need to grieve and allow your memories to be warmth for your heart.