Quality vs Quantity


It’s not the quantity of life that matters, but rather the quality of life. It’s not having time that counts, but making good use of the time you have…quality trumps quantity.


It is Always a Good Idea

More than one request for memory bears has come from a family who was told about them, but had never been to this website.

As you learn about the bears and read the articles posted here, you might think of someone who could benefit from this ministry.

Whether it is the bears or the writings on this site that a family needs; only God knows. Often, a person will cross our mind in the course of a day. We may think to call them or stop by, even email or send an old fashioned letter. Wow! Who would have ever thought a letter would sound old fashioned.

It is my experience that when a person comes to mind, there is a reason. Reaching out to them is always a good idea.

Quality verses Quantity

Life without quality isn’t much of a life at all. Quantity of days without quality is like a desert without water. Breathing in and out is to exist; taking pleasure in each day is to live. The choice of quantity without quality is a dismal existence.

One of the goals in hospice is for the patient to enjoy as much quality of life as possible. Keeping any pain to a tolerable level or less helps greatly towards this goal as pain can quickly remove quality from one’s daily life. Keeping the patient alert as possible contributes to their quality of life with their family and friends.

Life is to be cherished. It is within us to do whatever we can in order to live. We fight with all we have. We take on every possible opportunity for cure, for remission, for life. All of this is well and good…that is, until there is little quality of life left each day…until the struggle to live wars with the inevitable.

When there is no possibility for cure or remission; when the treatments only add to a miserable existence; when there is no pleasure left with each coming day; it may be time to consider quality of life verses quantity of days; it may be time to let go of false hope for a cure; it may be time to give the situation to God.

“To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven…a time to be born, and a time to die…a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance…” (Ecclesiastes 3: 1, 2 and 4)


Permission to Live

In hospice care, it is understood that the patient is going to die. There is time to think, to reconcile, to say goodbye. For the patient, there is time to worry, to wonder if their family will be okay without them. They can actually hold on to life, for a time, with these thoughts. Though death waits, they cling to life.

In hospice work, the most important guidance we gave a family member was to give their loved one permission to die. Release them from the responsibilities of this life by telling them it was okay to go; a hard thing to do, but necessary. As a family member gave their loved one permission to die, without realizing it, they gave themselves permission to live.

Room in My Heart

There’s room in my heart for you,

A place for you to reside.

And there you are with me

Until the day I die…


Loving someone doesn’t end when they die,

for as you loved, so will you grieve.