The pain of losing someone we love can be overwhelming as the sense of loss brings a loneliness we have never known before. At first, numbness insulates us from the reality of the moment. We do not have to think…only mourn.
As the days and nights go by, this numbness subsides, and the pain of our loss brings a conscious reality to each moment. We begin to think… “How can I go on?” Remorse sets in…something said…something unsaid.
Daily motivation is hard to find…the tendency to “drift” lies within us. “Why should we care” comes to mind. Anger, hurt, guilt, a sense of hopelessness can lead to depression…we can go from “functional” to “dysfunctional”.
Grieving is a reality for all of us. We cannot escape the moment, but need to learn to live in it. We need to learn to grieve. Learning to live with the pain of loss is very difficult, but necessary because the loss will always be there.
You begin by getting up each morning and putting one foot in front of the other. Start small with daily tasks, but start. Then, keep on going through the pain and the tears of loss. Each step will get easier, each day better than the day before.