If your loved one was involved in an accident or had a heart attack and was pronounced dead at the scene, there would be no time to say goodbye. Instant separation and numbness would set in. Adjusting to such an event would be most difficult. There is nothing to prepare you for the event.
If your loved one is found terminal with cancer, for example, there is time to prepare for the death. There is time to talk, to share, to say goodbye. Death of a loved one is not what any of us want, but it is inevitable. Being aware of an expected death is a blessing of time…time together…time to say goodbye.