“You need to snap out of it”…”You need to get on with your life”…”You shouldn’t still be crying,” are some of the well intended, but thoughtless statements presented to those in mourning. Often, others seem to think they know what is best for us.
Grieving is normal. The pain of loss is very real and personal. The expression of that pain is tears, even some good “screams” now and then. There is no time limit for grieving; it has a lifetime guarantee.
Grieving is personal. No one can totally identify with your grief because no one can walk in your shoes. Similar experiences and situations can have a better understanding of what you are going through, but no one can truly experience it as you can.
Grieving is positive. The grieving response is a very normal, personal and positive response. The grieving process transports you from the initial impact of your loss to the ongoing realization that your loved one is truly gone. Grieving is an expression of love.
The grieving process is a journey with many stops along the way. We will all face this journey frequently in our life on earth. Grieving can be over the loss of a pet or a job or a relationship or other losses experienced during our lifetime. Whatever the reason, grieving is a very real part of life. As there is a time to be born and a time to die; there is a time to grieve.
There is a time for everything, a season for every activity under heaven. A time to be born and a time to die. A time to plant and a time to harvest. A time to kill and a time to heal. A time to tear down and a time to rebuild. A time to cry and a time to laugh. A time to grieve and a time to dance. A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones. A time to embrace and a time to turn away. A time to search and a time to lose. A time to keep and a time to throw away. A time to tear and a time to mend. A time to be quiet and a time to speak up. A time to love and a time to hate. A time for war and a time for peace. (Ecclesiastics 3:1-8 NLT)