Regret is part of the grieving process. No one is perfect, so there will be some regret of omission or occurrence. Words spoken or withheld and actions taken or left undone can be a source of regret. All too often, some unnecessary regrets follow us around. If we are not perfect, how do we avoid them?
As a hospice team member, my suggestion is to make use of the time given. At the end of life, when the hospice team is assisting the patient and their family through the dying process, the advice given is to “say what needs to be said, to correct what needs to be corrected and to use the time remaining wisely.”
Throughout life, this same advice should be applied as much as possible. Taking life and togetherness for granted is the greatest cause of regret later. Why wait until the end of life setting to make things right? If it is a priority now, regrets later on will be minimal. It is “now” when we make the memories and regrets of tomorrow.