Category Archives: Bereavement

A Hospice Heart

There is a saying in the hospice field that “Hospice is not a job…it’s a calling.” This means that there is something inside that brings you to hospice…we call it a “Hospice Heart.” Caring for the dying and their family is not an easy task…it takes a special caring individual to make the hospice experience work right.

A Good Death

Many hear the word hospice and their preconceived idea takes over as they describe hospice as a place where you go to die. Many do not avail themselves of the services of hospice because of it.

As one who worked with patients and families every day in a hospice house, let me set the record straight. Hospice is not about dying, rather hospice is about living the best quality life you can with the least amount of pain. Hospice cannot prevent death, but hospice can help maintain quality and comfort until death arrives.

To die without hospice is to miss the chance to live each hour left as pain free as possible. Hospice defines life, not death. A hospice death is a good death.

“quality of days outweighs quantity of days…

to combine both is to be wise”

A Childhood Comfort

It doesn’t take much to threaten the comfort and security of a small child. A clasp of thunder or a bolt of lightning can send them to their father or mother. Though the storm continues, there is comfort to be found in a parent’s lap.

As adults, we tend to lose sight of a childhood fear, a “once upon a time” in our life. We are now the strong, the brave and our children come to us. We are the comfort for them. We are the parents.

When a loved one dies, we all need comfort. We find comfort through are family, our children and our friends. We find comfort in our memories. We wish we could hold them and hug them once more. We wish…

One of the ways to find some comfort, some outlet for the tendency to want to hug them once more is through a childhood object that brought much comfort to many children, a bear. A Memory Bear made from the loved one’s favorite clothing is a therapeutic comfort for children of all ages, a memory bear to hold and hug.

Time

206 - Copy - CopyTime is something we all have available to us. Some of our time is spent making a living and some of it is spent sleeping. Some of our time is spent however we choose. Like money, we spend time, but unlike money, time cannot be saved. Spend your time wisely while you can…while you have the time.

For What It’s Worth

Everything that is posted on “Memory Bears by Bonnie” is from my personal and professional experience with hospice and death and dying.

The memory bears are available to those interested in them and my words are from my experience and my heart. What you take away from this blog is your choice. I hope some of the thoughts help you in your situation.