Category Archives: Bereavement

Quality verses Quantity

Life without quality isn’t much of a life at all. Quantity of days without quality is like a desert without water. Breathing in and out is to exist; taking pleasure in each day is to live. The choice of quantity without quality is a dismal existence.

One of the goals in hospice is for the patient to enjoy as much quality of life as possible. Keeping any pain to a tolerable level or less helps greatly towards this goal as pain can quickly remove quality from one’s daily life. Keeping the patient alert as possible contributes to their quality of life with their family and friends.

Life is to be cherished. It is within us to do whatever we can in order to live. We fight with all we have. We take on every possible opportunity for cure, for remission, for life. All of this is well and good…that is, until there is little quality of life left each day…until the struggle to live wars with the inevitable.

When there is no possibility for cure or remission; when the treatments only add to a miserable existence; when there is no pleasure left with each coming day; it may be time to consider quality of life verses quantity of days; it may be time to let go of false hope for a cure; it may be time to give the situation to God.

To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven…a time to be born, and a time to die…a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance…” (Ecclesiastes 3: 1, 2 and 4)

A Tribute to Vicki

Vicki Kay Coit



You are nestled in your Heavenly Father’s arms.

You are missed You are loved You are safe You are home.


He leads me beside quiet waters; He restores my soul…

…And I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever.



Memory Bears Can Help

A loved one is gone and all of a sudden the clothing and personal possessions of this person take on new meaning. They are left behind as links to the memories.

You may go to the closet and hug their clothing with tears in your eyes. This is a very natural, loving gesture and one that is instinctive.

Hugging is what we want to do most when we see someone we love. When that person is no longer here, we will hug the clothing they used to wear.

Memory Bears are created from your loved ones favorite clothing with that same concept in mind; to hold and hug as you remember. Memory Bears can help.

A Need Within Us

We never know how much a part of our life someone is, until they are gone.

Have you ever noticed; when we think of someone we love and they are no longer with us, we have this feeling inside to hug. How could we think of someone we love without wanting to hug him or her. It is a need within us.

That is what memory bears provide: something to hold and hug. The uniqueness of the memory bear is that it is created from a favorite item of clothing that your loved one wore. This is what makes the memory bear personal and unique.

Holding and hugging a bear is probably a silly notion to some, but to most it is a way to release the hugs within them for their loved one. Memory bears are as therapeutic as any medicine, as an therapy one could provide.

Live Your Life as Deliberate as You Can

On a certain day, at a certain time, death will come for each one of us. That day and that time are unknown as is the number of years one has upon this earth.

Life is to be lived one day at a time. There is no promise of a tomorrow and no re-dos of today. Live your life as deliberate as you can, knowing it could be your final performance.