Category Archives: Funeral

Time Flies By

Have you ever noticed how time flies by. Once you were young…now your getting senior discounts. More than that, those you have know all your life have aged with you and, sadly, some are no longer here.

Life…time…once was…now, no more. The fields of summer give way to the snows of winter; we live and we die. We are followed by another generation and another and they too learn how time flies by.

Their Memories Will Be With Me Always

 Sitting here this morning, thinking about when I worked as a certified hospice-nursing assistant. The work was very challenging, but I loved it. I miss the patients and their families. I worked in a hospice house where families could find continuity of care and peace of mind for their loved one. Once, I took care of a man who grew up in a lighthouse. Maybe, I will write about that someday. No one stayed very long, but we did our best to make it a quality stay while they were there. Their memories will be with me always.

Memories of kids growing up, of families, of friends we knew, that special someone, that first hello, the last goodby. Sometimes we are with someone for a long time; sometimes it is only for a moment. Once they are gone from our lives, we remember things we may not have thought about before. Memories are important; eventually, they are all we have left.

An Old Saying

Life is a good place to be with our husbands or wives and children around us. We go day to day enjoying their presence. When our eyes open each morning, we know they will be there. Our life is good and complete with them in it.

There is an old saying, “You don’t miss the water ‘til the well runs dry.” I have heard this saying since I was a little girl. It is as a wife and mother that I truly understand what it means when the well runs dry.

For some of us, a husband, wife, or child is missing from our presence. Our days are less without them. The water is gone…the well has run dry.

No matter how much attention you pay to a loved one, when they are no longer here you think of how you could have given them more of your time. Maybe you could have, maybe you couldn’t. All you can do is the best you can. Appreciate your water while you have it…then let the memories fill your well.

If There Were No More Time

Anticipatory grief takes place when you know someone is dying. It is a time and process when you prepare for the expected death. During this period, you have the opportunity to make sure to leave nothing unsaid or undone.

Anticipatory grief is a special time of preparation that many do not have when a death comes suddenly and unexpected. In those situations, there is no time to prepare, no opportunity to say what needs to be said.

In this life, there will be times of loss.

Live each day and do your best to say and do what you would…

 If there were no more time.

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For Those I Pray

For those who wake every morning,
And fight for another day for their life,
I pray.
 
For those who have yet to know,
The sickness that will threaten their life,
I pray.
 
For those who are their family,
Who watch and hope each day,
I pray.
 
For those I ask in bounty,
Courage, Hope and Mercy,
Amen.