If I were to define something as “unwelcome, unavoidable and misunderstood”, it would be grief. No one has ever welcomed it into his or her life nor has anyone been able to avoid its presence. For the most part, grief has been misunderstood and this lack of understanding has created more grief than necessary.
For so many, there has been someone there telling them that they should be over their grief by now. This well-intended person with misinformation has created and continues to create a greater grief and guilt for those who mourn.
Grief is a deep sorrow over losing someone you love. Saying to someone that he or she should be over their grief is like saying that they should be over their love for that person. Looking at it this way, grief is not something anyone gets over. Grief, like love, becomes a functional part of their life.