Don’t Take Life For Granted

Death is thought of as a negative event in our culture. Death brings an end to this earthly life. We want life to go on and on, so death is our enemy.

Death is inevitable. Death is unpredictable. Death has no respect of age, sex or position. Death cannot be stopped in the final analysis. Death is inevitable.

It is possible to have a good death. In hospice, a good death was always the goal. You ask, “How can any death be good?”

A good death is one in which a family has time to say goodbye. A good death is one in which the patient is in the least amount of pain and experiencing the greatest level of consciousness possible. A good death is predictable.

A good death is not always possible. There are times when death comes without warning, like a thief in the night. There is no time for goodbye, no time to express any last thoughts and no time to prepare.

To avoid regrets in these situations, live your life as if the person you care about would be gone tomorrow. Say what you want to say, tell them what you want them to know every day. Be open, be honest, be alive to your feelings for them.

Death can come calling for any of us, at any time. Don’t take life for granted.

A Hospice Heart

There is a saying in the hospice field that “Hospice is not a job…it’s a calling.” This means that there is something inside that brings you to hospice…we call it a “Hospice Heart.” Caring for the dying and their family is not an easy task…it takes a special caring individual to make the hospice experience work right.

A Good Death

Many hear the word hospice and their preconceived idea takes over as they describe hospice as a place where you go to die. Many do not avail themselves of the services of hospice because of it.

As one who worked with patients and families every day in a hospice house, let me set the record straight. Hospice is not about dying, rather hospice is about living the best quality life you can with the least amount of pain. Hospice cannot prevent death, but hospice can help maintain quality and comfort until death arrives.

To die without hospice is to miss the chance to live each hour left as pain free as possible. Hospice defines life, not death. A hospice death is a good death.

“quality of days outweighs quantity of days…

to combine both is to be wise”

A Childhood Comfort

It doesn’t take much to threaten the comfort and security of a small child. A clasp of thunder or a bolt of lightning can send them to their father or mother. Though the storm continues, there is comfort to be found in a parent’s lap.

As adults, we tend to lose sight of a childhood fear, a “once upon a time” in our life. We are now the strong, the brave and our children come to us. We are the comfort for them. We are the parents.

When a loved one dies, we all need comfort. We find comfort through are family, our children and our friends. We find comfort in our memories. We wish we could hold them and hug them once more. We wish…

One of the ways to find some comfort, some outlet for the tendency to want to hug them once more is through a childhood object that brought much comfort to many children, a bear. A Memory Bear made from the loved one’s favorite clothing is a therapeutic comfort for children of all ages, a memory bear to hold and hug.

Time

206 - Copy - CopyTime is something we all have available to us. Some of our time is spent making a living and some of it is spent sleeping. Some of our time is spent however we choose. Like money, we spend time, but unlike money, time cannot be saved. Spend your time wisely while you can…while you have the time.